First look: What is it, and is it something for you?

An honest overview of the pros, cons, and what to watch out for

More and more couples are choosing to see each other briefly alone before the ceremony. That moment is called a “first look.” It’s not a must, but it can make your wedding day more relaxed and personal. In this blog post, I’ll explain exactly what a first look entails, what the pros and cons are, and how to decide if it’s right for you.

What exactly is a "first look"?

Een first look is een gepland moment waarop jullie elkaar voor het eerst zien in trouwkleding, trouw-haar en eventueel trouw-make-up. Meestal doe je dat op een rustige plek en zonder gasten erbij. Vaak staat een van beiden met de rug naar de ander toe, die dan langzaam dichterbij komt. Ik houd me op de achtergrond en leg vast wat er gebeurt. Het is een intiem moment dat helemaal van jullie samen is.

You can also have a "first look" with your parent(s) or another important person. That's entirely up to you!

The Benefits of a First Look

The biggest advantage is peace of mind. Many couples are nervous before the ceremony, and a first look takes a lot of that tension away. You get a moment to yourself before the day really gets going. It’s also practical, because many photos that are normally taken after the ceremony can now be taken earlier. That leaves you with more time later in the day to spend with your guests. It’s often a godsend in terms of lighting as well, since you’re not limited by the location or time of the ceremony.

The drawbacks to keep in mind

A first look isn’t for everyone. Some couples actually cherish the traditional moment when you see each other for the first time during the ceremony. You only experience that feeling once, and you might want to save it for that official moment. In addition, a first look requires a bit more planning in the morning. You both need to be ready on time, and that often means starting a little earlier.

Who is a "first look" suitable for?

A "first look" is a good fit for couples who want a quiet moment together beforehand, who are nervous and want to let go of some tension, or who want to spend as much time as possible with their guests. If, on the other hand, you’re attached to tradition and the element of surprise during the ceremony, then it’s probably not for you. There’s no right or wrong—it’s all about what feels right for you.

How does a "first look" work in practice?

Together, we’ll choose a beautiful, quiet spot—preferably out of sight of the guests. I’ll make sure the lighting is just right and that you two can spend some time together undisturbed. I don’t give strict directions; I just let the moment unfold naturally. It usually doesn’t take more than fifteen minutes, yet it often results in photos that couples later count among their favorites.

Are you still unsure?

That’s perfectly normal. My advice is to take some time to think it over together and ask yourselves what kind of experience you’re looking for on your wedding day. Do you want peace and connection above all else, or are you looking for that exciting element of surprise? Both choices will result in beautiful photos, so you really can’t go wrong either way.

Would you like to discuss whether a "first look" is right for you? I'd be happy to help you figure it out.

Please feel free to contact us, and we'll discuss it together.